The loss of a love is devastating. Have you ever experienced a break-up? Most people have. The pain is so bad that it is beyond belief. Some people experience physical pain. Perhaps their insides literally ache or their skin is so uncomfortable they can hardly live in it. Others react with emotional problems, often depression. Why is breaking up so hard?

It's much more than a loss of love, although that is bad enough. It's really loss of your world. As long as you have been in the relationship the two of you have existed as a single entity, the unity between you. It's true that this is all in your minds, but that's really all we have. Our minds, our ideas, our feelings, our strong sense of unity with our lover. So strong that we really think that it will last forever. When the relationship breaks we break inside. Our world shatters. That's why it's so hard to break up. We are literally all broken up inside. We are suddenly without the most important part of our life and we have no solid ground anywhere.

What can you do? Here are some suggestions. First, understand the seriousness of the situation. Don't pretend that you are OK when you really aren't. Try to keep up a semblance of normal appearance to other people, but feel free to scream and yell, pound the floor, whatever it takes when you are alone and no one else can hear you or see you.

Next, spend as much time as you can with your friends. Visit with them, telephone them, stay in touch with them. Let them know that you are in emotional trouble and need their support. This companionship can't take the place of your lost love, but it will relieve some of the pain, at least temporarily, and that's all you can ask for.

As part of all this try to realize that eventually the pain will either go away or reduce enough to be bearable. It may take a while. How long it takes is up to you. Some people take a life time. Others take a month or so. It all depends on how much you want to have a happy life.

There is an excellent book that will help you, "How to Survive the Loss of a Love", available on Amazon. Buy this book and keep it with you at all times, at least until you are over the worst of the pain.

If you can afford it, go to a counselor. Psychotherapy can be of immense help. Your recovery will be quicker and easier. Find a good massage therapist. Try Yoga. Exercise a lot. Ask yourself what you really enjoy and make sure you experience this pleasure at least once a day. Experiment and find out your best way to relieve the pain.

Also remember that you are an individual, and that you are different from everyone else. You have your own best way to get over the breakup, and it's your task to find it and use it. Some people avoid relationships for a long time. They are gun shy, and don't want to risk a breakup again. This is exactly what they should do. Other people dive right into a new relationship as a way to stop hurting. This works for them, and it is exactly what they should do. There is no right way to get over a breakup, and no wrong way. There is only your way, doing what is right for you.

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